How to Read Body Language - Part Three

Lon Chaney Sr. was one of the most famous actors from the silent film era. He was known as 'The Man of a Thousand Faces' because of his ability to not only transform himself through creative makeup but also project different personalities and feelings without the use of words. Chaney developed his art of necessity. He was raised by parents who could not hear or speak, which forced him to cultivate his nonverbal skills. By addressing this need he inadvertently trained himself to understand and convey deep feelings without talking. He became a master of body language.

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How to Start a Conversation

"Pretty nasty weather we've been having lately, isn't it?" "Yes. Terrible. So... how do you know our hostess?" "I work with her sister at Modern Marketing. What do you do?" If we add, to the above, "What's your sign?" and "How about those Yankees/Steelers/Lakers?! " have we just run through your entire repertoire of social conversation parries? What do you say to someone you've just met socially... at a party or in some other social situation? What do you say when you're the host(ess), and you don't know the guest well, or at all? What do you say when you've just met someone you think you might be interested in romantically, or when you're on a first date?

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3 Ideas to Help Keep the Air Clear in Your Relationship

Communication is more than talking to each other. It is more about getting your feelings across effectively, and encouraging your partner to do the same. These tips should help you keep your relationship air cleared. 1. If you have a bone to pick with your partner, invite him / her to sit down. Explain that you don't understand what he / she said or did, and admit that it hurt your feelings, made you angry, or whatever effect it had. Give your partner time to respond, and don't contradict him / her. "It hurt my feelings when you discussed my weight in front of your mother.

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Killing the Hobbyhorse

"Cop that, Ned; he doesn't half go on, " says an elderly woman out of the corner of her mouth to her husband in her broad cockney accent, visibly tired of the monologue. The object of the discussion has a hobbyhorse and he seems to be busily riding it with his overactive mandible... blissfully unaware as he is that those listening on are growing further disengaged by the second. Sound familiar? Hobbyhorses are passions that are contorted out of control. We become a one track record and people who know us studiously avoid those subjects that 'get us going.

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How to Read Body Language - Part One

There are two ways you can use body language to enhance your face-to-face interactions: by observing the body language of the person you're speaking to and by controlling your own body language. Understanding what others are telling you through their nonverbal communication and taking control of the signals you are sending has the potential to improve your ability to communicate. Your body's actions and responses actually do speak louder than words. It's all a matter of knowing what to look for. Positive nonverbal communication is usually quite reliable as an indicator of the way a person feels unless gestures become exaggerated.

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How to Read Body Language - Part Two

Professor Ray Birdwhistell of the University of Louisville determined that more than two-thirds of communication in face-to-face settings takes place nonverbally. Fellow researcher Albert Mehrabian discovered that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. His studies indicated that 38 percent of communication can be attributed to the tone of one's voice while a whopping 55 percent results from facial expression and body language. Add to this the fact that nonverbal communication reveals a person's true feelings when it is contrary to spoken language.

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How Can I Get My Partner to Agree to Relationship Counseling?

If you think relationship counseling is just what your relationship needs, I bet you have one glaring problem. That problem would be in convincing your partner to agree to the counseling. It is kind of ironic. I mean, if you both were open enough to readily agree to relationship counseling, you probably would not even need it! I guess that overstates things a bit. But getting a reluctant girlfriend - or boyfriend - to agree to counseling will take a bit of doing. Here are a few things you can do to increase the odds of getting your partner to accept the notion of counseling.

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Delete and Type - Get Your Focus!

Delete and type, you know what this phrase means! Something is boggling your mind and you would not know what to do, what to say, what to feel, and whatever is what at that moment! You just get tongue tied for one apparent reason. You would not know how to explain and reach out any misunderstanding you have with the person you love so much, for the person who means the whole world for you. Sometimes things happen when it gets out of hand when your boyfriend thinks he does not get the time he demands from you. The words in your thoughts - delete and type, if I may say so, delete and type!

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