Be a Gentleman

You might be the crudest, backwoods hick in the world. You may have never had one moment of training on how to be a gentleman. But, know this. You can change. No matter if you are a teen, middle aged or a Senior Citizen, you can improve your manners.

Good manners are about kindness and respect. It would be best if you treated everyone you meet with kindness and respect. I'm one of those guys who believe that American culture has become progressively more coarse and vulgar over the last 100 years, and the vulgarity has really escalated over the last 40 years.

Don't misunderstand me. I'm no prude. I like to cuss and say disgusting things and tell shockingly dirty jokes. And my wife Deborah is the same, but a far better joke teller. But there is a time and place for everything, including vulgarity.

But even with our ribald senses of humor, I still treat Deborah like a lady.

I've seen many instances in which men I know get all mannerly and respectful of a girl when they're trying to get her attention and get a date. But then after a while, they revert to normal behavior and the gentleman act would fade.

That's really one of the differences that we want to discuss. Are your social skills merely an act, or are they genuine personality traits?

Women like to be treated nicely. They like to feel pampered and special. Who doesn't? So, if you want to become a Great Lover, make these tips a part of your normal everyday behavior:

Be polite.
Be patient.
Be humble.
Listen to your lady attentively.
Don't interrupt.
Hold the door. Women consider this the #1 gentlemanly gesture.
Open her car door for her, and not from the inside of the car. I still open Deborah's car door after ten years of marriage.
Learn how to properly introduce your lady to others.
Seat your lady first when you sit down, hold her chair for her.
When you are seated in a restaurant and your lady leaves the table, stand up. When she returns to the table, stand again. Do this for the other women at your table. This one thing will startle your lady and her friends. This is a lost art.
Offer your hand when going upstairs or downstairs together.
When you are walking on a sidewalk, take the position closest to traffic.
Never yell at your lady. Control your tone of voice.
Offer your lady your jacket when she's cold.
Speak intelligently, but don't use words you're unfamiliar with. That makes you look dumb.
Don't use crude or offensive language unless you and she have an understanding.
Practice an attitude of forgiveness.
You hold the umbrella over her head, even if it means you get wet.
Walk her home, or walk her to her door.
Offer your seat to ANY standing woman or elderly person.
When you are at the table, turn off your phone. Few things are more rude than taking a call during your date. You're not that important.

Gentlemanly behavior says that your lady has value to you. Your gentlemanly gestures, practiced consistently, are not an act, but are your way of life. And gentlemen get more sex and are on their way to being known as Great Lovers.

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