Here's the One Thing a Guy Will Say to You That Tells You He Has No Intention of Committing to You

Have you ever had a conversation with your intended hoping to get him to commit but the hints didn't do the trick? So did you then decide to be a lot less subtle about it only to get the surprising answer that he wants to but he's not ready? You may not know this but the fact that he said he will commit but not yet is the very thing that telling you he has no intention of committing to you, and here's why.

I know this can come as a surprise but when a guy tells you in one breath that the wants to commit but he's not ready, then experience has shown that it's unlikely that he will.

So as to be fair let me tell you that the guy you're with could be genuinely not ready to commit and that's why he says it, but that's the problem just there- he's not ready to. But the fact that he says he will at some magical time in the future leads you to believe that he will - you just have to wait.

So if you have found yourself in this situation what are you to do?

The usual reaction from other women who have had this said to them, is to think okay- he wants to commit and so all I need to do is give him some time and then he will. What then happens is they start to notice that they are not feeling as easy about the relationship as they want to feel because the commitment thing is hanging over their heads.

Now she's feeling more and more insecure and not quite sure why and not quite sure what to do about it.
So she will go to her girlfriends and talk it over with them, they reinforcing the fact that yes, guys say this and all she has to do is wait. Then weeks and then months go by and her guy still hasn't committed, so now what should she do?

How to make sure you're not left hanging for months and months waiting.

To help you avoid the turmoil of waiting until your guy decides to commit to you, here is one thing you can say.

'Why aren't you ready?' or 'Why don't you know when you're going to commit?'

What these questions do is force your guy to give you an answer and not string you along for months while he makes up his mind. And this leaves you in a clear position of knowing where you stand with him.

So now you've thrown the ball back into his court and you're waiting for an answer- what you will get now is either a shrug of the shoulders, or a reason cum 'excuse' as to why he can't commit now.

And this is where you make your decision to either accept it or not.

What I will say to you here is that if you do accept his reasoning that he can't commit to you and the relationship now, as valid, then you are putting yourself in the same situation as those women who hang on for months and years without getting a commitment.

So, if you want a committed relationship and your guy just isn't sure, then can you possibly have a successful relationship with him? And are you prepared to wait weeks, months or even years to find out?

Hope this helps

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